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People are buzzing with excitement now that we’ve reached the holiday season, especially about those big Black Friday sales.    But if you are a parent, make sure you concentrate on the important things this week.


There’s no doubt that these last 6 weeks of the year will be filled with cheer as we celebrate Thanksgiving, Christmas and Hannukah, and New Years.

And while these are great times between family and friends, we also have to remember this can be a time of excess and abuse, especially for adolescents.

Most parents are aware that New Year’s Eve is a night to keep a closer eye on their teen, but are they aware that the night before Thanksgiving is a big night for partying? And while kids may be out drinking and drugs, it all is overlooked because mom and dad are very busy planning travel, shopping, or cooking plans. The turkey takes plenty of preparation and we know the multitude of stops at the store to tackle all of the trimmings.

But somewhere during all of this running around, we need to stop and talk to our kids. The night before Thanksgiving is a popular night for unchaperoned parties, bars, and DUIs. Parents should stop and talk to their kids, not only about the plans for Thanksgiving, but what their child is doing the night before. They may need to ask more questions than a typical Friday or Saturday night. Teens know who goes out of town for the holidays. And with the right amount of cajoling, they could even get the keys to those vacant homes from their friends.

So if your son or daughter tells you that they are going to “______” home, makes sure that family is in town. Your child could be telling your the truth, or half of it. When they say they are going to the Jones’ home, they may not be lying, but they may not be telling you that the Jones family is half way across the country. Teens use these homes for partying all of the time. This isn’t being invasive either. It’s being a responsible parent.

As students have more vacation and off days around the holidays, they will be more inclined to attend parties, use alcohol, or try drugs. Kids may even buy more drugs than normal to stock up for the holidays.

Positive parenting, and active involvement are key in helping keep your child off of drugs. Parents need to be vigilant that alcohol and drugs are absolutely off-limits for minors. It’s not only wrong, it’s illegal.

Black Friday may be the big highlight of this upcoming week, but make sure that Black Friday is all about shopping, and not the mourning of a loved one, or someone in your community, who wasn’t properly supervised over the holiday.


There’s no doubt, most of us are done shopping this holiday season.    Of course, the mall parking lots will be filled today, and heads of severe procrastinators will line up at cash registers at nearly every retail outlet.   Some stores, like Toys R Us and Old Navy, had at least one night of all-night shopping madness.

But now as we join our families for Christmas, we are reminded how precious our loved ones are.   We feel blessed to spend this time with parents, siblings, or children.    If we’ve lost someone special, we take time to reflect on their passing, and remember the good times.   It is often around this time that we realize that we may spend a little too much time worrying about our own struggles, whether it be our work, finances, or relationships, and not worrying enough about the struggles of loved ones.

Many drug problems go unnoticed until the addiction is severe.   Drug users often hide their little “hobby” from family and friends.  2010 is almost over.  Over the next 7 days, users will make excuses to smoke a little here or snort a little there.  Maybe they have trouble being around family members, so they get high to avoid the nerves of family conflict.   Maybe they view the days leading up to New Year‘s Eve as the “party before the party.”      You know, they’ve got a plan.  A little marijuana through Christmas and maybe some Benzos or Oxycontin through the week.   “Hey there’s no work this week, right?”  Then they ring in the New Year at a big party with some Methamphetamine and Ecstasy.

When you are with your family, take the time to really talk with a loved one.   Look to see if they are doing well.   Check to see if they might be drinking too much alcohol at these family functions.  Could they be withdrawn?   Are they showing signs of drug use?    Being a parent is a full time job.   But you have the power to influence your children and other loved ones into making the right choices.

As you look ahead to 2011, make sure the new year means a clean year for your family.    If you are a parent and you use, you are setting up your children to follow in your path.   If you are drug-free, take the time to be informed about drug use, so that your children will be drug free in 2011.   America’s Parenting Coach, Tim Chapman, has written two books that may help you.   He also endorses a home drug test kit that could be a life saver in your home.   The kit isn’t just a scientific test, it’s the door to solving your loved one’s drug problem.

First the books:



This book, sold on Amazon.com right here, is described on the site as:

A must read for parents of pre-teens, teenagers and adult children.

It is a different world we live in today. No parent or child is adequately prepared to deal with this day and age. Just over a century ago our families traveled in horseless carriages. If you wanted to talk to someone you had to actually meet with them. And while today we talk on cell phones while satellites orbit overhead, we have yet to figure a way to meet our life sustaining, emotional need for intimacy, particularly within our family.

In an easy to understand and simple format, Chapman shows parents how to keep or recapture their relationship with their children, regardless of their age. He teaches the reader the difference between feelings, thoughts and behaviors in a simple format that will change your life. He helps the reader to understand themselves and thus how to pass this skill onto their children.

The Power of Parental Influence also addresses today s new problem of kids living at home far past the time when they should grow-up and move out.

The reader will learn responsible and shame-free methods of motivating their adult child to move out of the house and into their adult lives.

Above all, this book will teach anyone how to deal with their feelings.



Tim’s other book, Addictionary, is a great tool for families coping with a drug using relative.


You can find this book on Amazon.com right here.   This is the description of the book on the retailer’s website.

ARE YOU AN ADDICT? IS SOMEONE YOU KNOW AN ADDICT? ARE YOU SURE? YOU WILL HAVE A NEW UNDERSTANDING OF ADDICTION AFTER READING THIS BOOK. This is an informative, entertaining book that was ahead of its time in 1993 when it was first published. Since That time, every addiction imaginable has been mentioned in the media and between individuals. ADDICTIONARY includes 78 types of addiction. Now the Author has updated the ADDICTIONARY and it remains a leading edge tool for the lay person, as well as, professionals needing accurate information regarding different types of addictions. It is great material for discussion groups. ADDICTIONARY is a great book to facilitate conversations at therapy sessions, educational events, and even at parties. It is a powerful tool that outlines real symptoms based on solid research on addiction. ADDICTIONARY is reader friendly and was written by a 30-year veteran counselor who is also recovering from his own addiction. In an easy to understand and simple format, Chapman defines and presents addiction in a manner that engages the reader.


Once you are armed with the knowledge of drug use and addiction, decide whether or not your family needs home drug testing.   The Teensavers home drug test kit scans for many drugs, and will help ensure that your children grow up drug free.