Archive for November, 2010

Teens looking for a high, can already access drugs from a nearby street corner.    It doesn’t matter which neighborhood.  Drugs are everywhere.    But now products manufactured for one purpose, are being misused as drugs.   First there was synthetic marijuana.   The DEA is finally cracking down on the 5 key components that make up Spice, K2, and other products used as a pot substitute.

Now a new product that has caused chaos and deaths in Great Britain, is hitting store shelves in America.   Teens are buying bath salts under the name Ivory Wave, and using it as a synthetic cocaine.   Fox2 in St. Louis did a piece on this craze.  You can see it here.

The key marking on this packaging as well as Spice and K2 is “Not for human consumption.”     This does not dissuade teens from trying these products.   In fact, these products are easier to obtain.   Kids can walk into headshops and get the synthetic marijuana products.     If you  have concerns about these products, contact myteensavers by clicking here.

Watch Fox2’s report:



Tim Chapman, Msc.D., CAADAC
“America’s parenting Coach”
Matthew is a 15-year old boy who’s looking forward to the holidays. He enjoys the
togetherness that takes place in his home during this wonderful season.

Holidays around Matthew’s house are a joy throughout the season. That’s because
he lives in an emotionally healthy family. Emotional healthiness requires ongoing
commitment and communication from one another.

Phyllis and David York, the CO-founders of “Tough Love” parent support groups believe
that “the essence of family is cooperation not togetherness.” When it comes to raising
teenagers there is much truth to this statement.

Matthew’s parents struggle with him from time to time (struggle is the nature of
adolescence). During these times, cooperation does become more important than
togetherness. Matthew’s parents facilitate cooperation throughout the year, which is what
allows his family to experience true togetherness during the holiday season.

Dysfunctional families tend to be emotionally distant or too busy to communicate with
each other throughout the year. Then suddenly the holiday season arrives, and these
same families think they can just pop a turkey in the oven and strike up an intimate
conversation with each other. Wrong!

Reaching intimacy and vulnerability is a process. Becoming intimate and vulnerable
with each other will create togetherness, however each family members’ emotional needs
should be considered at all times, not just around the holidays.

I’ve listed 7 emotional needs that if met throughout the year, equal happiness and
togetherness during the holiday season.

In an emotionally healthy family;

1. Each child is acknowledged as a worthy contributor to the family – Parents validate
this child’s opinions and ideas. They don’t necessarily have to agree with them, just
acknowledge them.

2. Each child feels part of the family unit by spending time with their parents – Many
times teens are resistant to spending time with their parents. Although they need this
time, they tend to resist it. In such as case, it’s helpful to allow the teenager to choose
or create an activity for family time once or twice a month.

3. Each child understands the rules and expectations of the family – If rules are not a
problem, great! If rules or expectations become a problem, parents need to develop
written rules or contracts for their children.

4. Each child feels safe at home and free from verbal or physical abuseVerbal abuse
can be as damaging as physical abuse. If any type of abuse takes place in your
family, seek professional help immediately.

5. Each child practices negotiating and problem solving skills – This is important for
children in order to develop “boundaries” which keep them emotionally safe. If
parents lack this skill, their children will too.

6. Each child is allowed to express his/her feelings without judgment – Parents must
listen to their child’s feelings then reflect the feeling they thought they heard.
Example: Matthew arrives home and announces: “My girlfriend isn’t speaking to me.”
His parent’s should response with “you sound hurt Matthew?” If they’re wrong and
Mathew’s not hurt, he will likely tell them. If their interpretation is correct, it will
validate his feelings and create a stronger bond. A dysfunctional parent would give
advice in this situation rather than acknowledge the child’s feelings.

7. Each child is able to spend time alone – It’s important that we take time to meditate,
pray and talk to ourselves. The ability to be alone enhances a child’s self-esteem.

Matthew’s family has mastered these techniques by practicing and enforcing them
throughout the year. This way, during the holiday season, they don’t have to wonder
what it’s like to live in a happy family.

For information on dealing with teen behavior contact Tim at Chapman House Toll Free
at 1-800-451-1947 or log onto  If you believe your child may be using drugs or may be an addict, then contact us at

A Christmas tree inside a home.

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American’s Parenting Coach, Tim Chapman wrote up a good little piece of information for parents on teen drug use and home drug testing teens.   He talks about the Myteensavers home drug test.  It also includes video of a family torn apart by drugs, and their struggle to get help for their loved ones.

You can see it on Jim Plagakis’s site.   He’s an outspoken pharmacist and a leader in his field at informing the public.  See his guest posting here.

It’s not an easy debate.   To test or not to test?   The issue
of home drug testing has its obvious detractors.   Find me a teen who
says, “sure mom and dad, let me pee in that cup for you.”   That
probably won’t happen too often.   You would think that clean teens
would have nothing to fear, yet many still object to the notion of
proving to their parents that they are drug free.    Teens are the
rebellious ones, right?   Surprisingly, there are many parents who
refuse to test their teens.     There are numerous pros and cons for
drug testing teens at home.

For the rest of the article on, click here

The group at has been reading the recent report by The Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA).  The recently released National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH) shows a disturbing trend.   These 2009 stats shed light on which direction drug use is moving.  I will focus on some of the rates for minors, as the survey deals with both adults and children.

When it comes to illicit drug use:

  • Among youths aged 12 to 17, the current illicit drug use rate increased from 2008 (9.3 percent) to 2009 (10.0 percent). Between 2002 and 2008, the rate declined from 11.6 to 9.3 percent.
  • The rate of current marijuana use among youths aged 12 to 17 decreased from 8.2 percent in 2002 to 6.7 percent in 2006, remained unchanged at 6.7 percent in 2007 and 2008, then increased to 7.3 percent in 2009.
  • Among youths aged 12 to 17, the rate of nonmedical use of prescription-type drugs declined from 4.0 percent in 2002 to 2.9 percent in 2008, then held steady at 3.1 percent in 2009.
  • The rate of current Ecstasy use among youths aged 12 to 17 declined from 0.5 percent in 2002 to 0.3 percent in 2004, remained at that level through 2007, then increased to 0.5 percent in 2009.
  • Between 2008 and 2009, the rate of current use of illicit drugs among young adults aged 18 to 25 increased from 19.6 to 21.2 percent, driven largely by an increase in marijuana use (from 16.5 to 18.1 percent).

Obtaining drugs:

  • Almost half (49.9 percent) of youths aged 12 to 17 reported in 2009 that it would be “fairly easy” or “very easy” for them to obtain marijuana if they wanted some.
  • Approximately one in five reported it would be easy to get cocaine (20.9 percent).
  • About one in seven (13.5 percent) indicated that LSD would be “fairly” or “very” easily available, and 12.9 percent reported easy availability for heroin.

Teens who said they used drugs in the last month:

Drug use by teens in the last month

The rate of past month illicit drug use increased from 2008 to 2009 among youths aged 12 to 17 (from 9.3 to 10.0 percent) and young adults aged 18 to 25 (from 19.6 to 21.2 percent) (Shown below)

Teen Drug Use

Youths Aged 12 to 17

  • In 2009, 10.0 percent of youths aged 12 to 17 were current illicit drug users : 7.3 percent used marijuana, 3.1 percent engaged in nonmedical use of prescription-type psychotherapeutics, 1.0 percent used inhalants, 0.9 percent used hallucinogens, and 0.3 percent used cocaine.
  • Among youths aged 12 to 17, the types of drugs used in the past month varied by age group. Among 12 or 13 year olds, 1.6 percent used prescription-type drugs nonmedically, 1.4 percent used inhalants, and 0.8 percent used marijuana. Among 14 or 15 year olds, marijuana was the most commonly used drug (6.3 percent), followed by prescription-type drugs used nonmedically (3.3 percent); inhalants and hallucinogens tied for third rank (0.8 percent). Marijuana also was the most commonly used drug among 16 or 17 year olds (14.0 percent); it was followed by prescription-type drugs used nonmedically (4.3 percent), hallucinogens (1.6 percent), inhalants (0.8 percent), and cocaine (0.6 percent).
  • After gradually declining from 11.6 percent in 2002 to 9.3 percent in 2008, the rate of past month illicit drug use among 12 to 17 year olds increased to 10.0 percent in 2009. Marijuana use declined from 8.2 percent in 2002 to 6.7 percent in 2006, held steady at that rate through 2008, then increased to 7.3 percent in 2009. Nonmedical use of psychotherapeutic drugs declined from 4.0 percent in 2002 and 2003 to 2.9 percent in 2008; the rate in 2009, 3.1 percent, was not significantly different from the rate in 2008.

These stats indicate a disturbing trend.  After years of decline, teens are finding their way back to drugs.   Parents can utilize home drug testing kits. is a place where parents can educate themselves.



Most parents are naive.    That’s the finding from a new Canadian Centre for Substance Abuse study, found here.    The study arrives on the first day of National Drug Awareness Week in Canada.   The two key findings:

  • 70 per cent of Canadian parents surveyed don’t think their kids (aged 12-17) have experimented with drugs; and
  • 80 per cent of parents say they are confident they would recognize signs of drug use in someone close to them.

But information uncovered in the study shows that one in three teens between the ages of 15-17 and half the children between the ages of 18-21 have smoked marijuana in the past year.

An Ontario Student Drug Use Health Survey also found that Canadian children as young as 11 years-old had tried marijuana.   Overall Canadians smoke more marijuana than any other developed nation.

The most glaring problem was with prescription drug abuse.    92% of Canadian parents believed that their teen had not ever stolen a pill from the medicine cabinet.   But 18% of junior high and high school students said they had raided the medicine cabinet to get high.

These alarming types of reports show that parents cannot rely on their own judgment because they are not experienced in the field of drug abuse.

Home drug testing teens is the safest, most accurate, and most reliable way to ensure your teen is clean.   For information on home drug test kits, click on for education on how home drug test kits work, and why you should have one if you have teens.

California’s marijuana legalization supporters are taking their mission to a new state.    Colorado is now the new destination for the marijuana movement.   Supporters were at the University of Colorado recently to try to drum up support.     According to an article in the Denver Daily News, a group called SAFER (Safer Alternative for Enjoyable Recreation) is leading the charge.    This is not the first time the group has tried to get a marijuana legalization initiative on the ballot.    They site a republican governorship on the stalling of marijuana legalization.    Legal or not, one thing is for sure; marijuana and all controlled substances need to be kept out of the hands of children.    If you suspect your loved one has a problem with any narcotic, head to MyteenSavers for help.

And for a complete read of the Denver Daily News’ article click here .

You’ve heard that Capital One commercial’s favorite tag line?   “What’s in your wallet?”

Well, what’s in your medicine cabinet?

You keep a thermometer there for when your child is sick.   When he feels hot, or has the chills, you take his temperature.   Why are we not following through when our sick kids are in their teens?    Just like the flu, the warning signs are easy to see when it comes to drug abuse.       Your child’s grades are slipping, they seem to be a little more secretive about their activities, and they have new or different friends.    Wouldn’t you reach into your medicine cabinet if you could diagnose what is wrong.   The truth is, you can.   The MyteenSavers home drug test kit is an easy to use, affordable, accurate, and private drug test to provide you with answers you need to know.    Wouldn’t you rather have peace of mind?

Don’t wait for your child to become to become a full-blown addict.   Most teens don’t see the harm in experimenting with drugs.   But it’s a dangerous and potentially deadly path.     Visit to see the parental guide to using the drug test kit and the follow through support that comes with the kits.



It has happened again.   A deadly combination of prescription drugs and teenagers.    It wasn’t in a back alley, or at a warehouse.   The overdose occurred at what should be the safest place; home.    The parents weren’t out-of-town.  In fact, they were in the next room.    The didn’t think anything was amiss because the teens were up late.   But what happened in Medford, Oregon, could happen in your neighborhood.  No parent wants to find another parent’s son in their home, nor do they want to find out that their teen has died because of an overdose.

These days kids are not just hooked on marijuana and alcohol.   And while you hear about oxycontin and methadone, there are many other pills that can be seen as the quick high.    “You can’t smell pills, like alcohol or marijuana,” says certified addiction treatment specialist Steve Stahovich.   “Kids could be using right under your nose, and maybe they seems a little giddy, but they’ve been in the room for hours with you, so you don’t sense the danger.”   Stahovich has been treating teen addicts for nearly two decades, since overcoming his drug addiction.

Stahovich believes in a family working together to combat drug abuse.   “Solutions are only as effective as the family members involved.   If mom and dad are not on the same page, the message is missed.”   Stahovich has been helping companies keep their workforce clean, by producing business model drug testing kits.     He realized over time, there was a need for an accurate, reliable, and private test for the home.     He created the Myteensavers home drug test kit for parents to keep a closer eye on their teen.   He insists, nobody at schools or in community needs to know that your family is dealing with a problem.     “This isn’t just science.   It’s a solution,”  Stahovich says.     The Myteensavers home drug test kit comes with 24/7 assistance for families who discover they have a real problem on their hands.


Most parents watch their teens walk out the door on a Friday night without much of a thought.   “Be home by 11,” shouts one parent.   “Drive safe,” says the other.    Sometimes that’s the only thing we worry about as parents; our children being home on time!    But what are our teens doing between 6p and 10p?    They could just be checking out the high school football game, catching a movie, or hanging out at the local fast food joint with their friends.

But even if they did do one of those things.   They aren’t always just happy-go-lucky events.   Sometimes there’s a little something in the middle.   A drink here, a puff there, or a pill or two down the hatch.     Teens are smart enough to get a little bit of a high, then fly past a weary eyed parent who probably got up at 5 or 6am for work.    Not every teen stumbles home drunk.   Give them credit.    They save those nights for when they spend the night at a home where the parents are out-of-town.   But keep a close eye.

Interact with your teen when they come home.    Ask them about their night.   Listen to the names of the friends they are hanging out with.   Parents need to be vigilant.   Most teens are good kids.   Some get caught up with the wrong crowd.    Most parents could spot the OBVIOUS kids who are the wrong crowd.    I knew many “good,” popular,” and “well liked” kids who were into heavy drugs.    Talk with other parents.   Sometimes keeping those open lines of communication and having some meaningful dialogue make the difference between keeping a teenager in check, and having a teenager that’s spinning out of control.

Our children are our most prized possessions.    We need to cherish them.    Many parents find the time to wash their cars twice a week,  have their manicure and pedicure routinely, or get the puppy groomed every weekend.   But sometimes we fail to check on most beloved joys of our lives.   The ones that smile back at us, and keep our hearts warm.